as I settle into the New Year, a fresh start and resolutions setting, I’ve been thinking a lot about commitment. because let’s be honest, these days we’re more committed to watching our favorite TV shows than we are to exercising. we’re more committed and passionate about our make-up brand than our vitamin brand. we’re more committed to our credit card payments than we are to living within our means. and for the most part, we are more committed to our misery than we are committed to pursuing our joy.
then I was listening to an interview yesterday between Marie Forleo and Gabby Bernstein, when Gabby said that for people to really be willing to make change and get committed, they have to hit some sort of “rock bottom.” and it’s true. why is that? why do things have to get SO bad? why must we have no choice other than to change before we are willing to commit and actually make it happen? why aren’t we willing to change when things just aren’t ideal? or when our current choicess are simply not allowing us to be our best selves?
now I understand that the fresh start of a new year somehow makes it easier to take that first step. so, assuming that you are considering making change in your life in 2013…whether you’ve hit your “rock bottom,” or found the motivation within (this means feeling worthy of change and worthy of being your best self)…you’ll want to hear this next part.
Gabby goes on to talk about the science behind making change stick. the magic lies in repetition; the magic lies in 40 days. she says “from a neuro-scientific perspective it’s literally changing the neuro pathways in our brains; you’re creating new patterns.” this is not the first time I’ve heard this…but it is the first time I’ve thought to apply it to New Year’s Resolutions.
you’ve probably heard the “take one day at a time” motivation, and that works for some people. but if you’re one of those who need the light at the end of the tunnel to give you hope…what if this year you focused on committing to your resolutions for only 40 days? would that help you stay on track? give you the motivation to stick with it?
…because at the end of 40 days something magical might happen, you just might be re-wired.
I posted on my Facebook page the week of Thanksgiving that I was going to meditate every day in December. and the truth is that I meditated most days in December, but not all; and not on vacation (I clearly wasn’t committed enough). but I’ve decided to recommit, to start again, with my goal being to meditate for 40 days in a row.
what could you do for 40 days?
with love, KG